As my relationship with Dan has started to get more serious, Layla has begun to complain that he "asserts" himself towards her the ways that cis dudes relate with each other (the hard handshake, the "you gotta take care of her", talk, he once tried to playfully shadowbox her, etc) and it's made her really uncomfortable.
Read MoreHuman nature is to create hierarchies, even inside marginalized communities. Somehow, even in the midst of facilitating delicious, supportive community with the intention of lifting each other up, we can’t help but throw others under us to gain height.
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