Can you turn infidelity into healthy polyamory? | I'm Poly and So Can You

For more than two years, I was seeing a married man. Several months ago, his wife figured things out. We took a break while they talked. He is interested in establishing a poly-type relationship, but he is not sure his wife would be open to it. Do you think it is possible for him to establish a poly relationship out of something that started out as non-ethical non-monogamy? If so, how should he go about it?

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Andre Shakti
No Money, No Honey: Testimonials from sex workers who go gay/straight for pay| I'm Poly and So Can You

Many of us have been placed in a situation where we’ve felt the responsibility to perform intimacy, either out of politeness, regard for the other party’s feelings, or commitment to a greater agenda. It can feel forced, strained, exhausting and uncomfortable. Now, imagine that the person you’re stuck performing intimacy with is a different gender than the one(s) you are attracted to. Then imagine that the performing of intimacy has to extend to interacting sexually with that person. Oh, and it has to be 100% believable as an authentic connection.

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Andre Shakti
#PornStarsWhoPersist Volume 1: Mona Wales| I'm Poly and So Can You

I've had the pleasure of knowing Mona since we worked in a domination house together back in 2013. Since then, she's skyrocketed to pornographic stardom in a time where the porn industry is struggling more than it ever has before. Don't let her flawless mainstream appearance fool you - she's as intellectual, as radical, and as queer as they come, and she's never been afraid to put her politics on full display through her work. Enjoy!

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Andre Shakti
How do I get my boyfriend into the idea of more women in our - and my - sexual dynamic? | I'm Poly and So Can You

I recently broached the topic of opening up the relationship to allow me to have purely sexual connections with women - both with him in the bedroom, and without him - and while the conversation stayed grounding and loving, it hit him hard. He’s not personally interested in hooking up with other women himself, and he’s afraid that I’ll end up falling in love with someone else.

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Andre Shakti
Advice for jealous Doms in polyamorous relationships | I'm Poly and So Can You

I will say that it's very important to make a clear distinction between the time you are "in character" as your "D/S dynamic" selves, and the time you're both just two human beings on equal footing in your "relationship dynamic". You can signal when the dynamic needs to shift - when you need to drop the power play and have a check-in around emotions or boundaries - as plainly or as subtly as you want.

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Andre Shakti